Quick Thoughts

These are thoughts too short for a whole post, but which are really important for me to say. I update this page regularly.

Warning: Some of these thoughts may be "spicy," or controversial. They are still said in love to anti-gay Christians. 

Please quit calling being gay a choice. No one would choose to feel like a disappointment to God.

If my biggest sin is who I love, rather than how I treat people, I think I'm doing good.

My love makes me beautiful, not broken.

If sincerity counts for anything, I have been saved, long ago.

Some things I say may be hard to hear. But I have been on both sides, and nothing is as hard as thinking you're disappointing God. That's what you believe about us. And intentionally or not, that's what you teach us to believe about ourselves.

I try to love everyone, even those who hurt me. But I'm very careful about whom I call my friends, because I don't want to be used as an excuse in an argument. If you have to say, "I have gay friends," something's wrong. Your gay friends probably don't want to be used in that way. Have you ever asked their permission? Do you dare?

Saying you love gay people doesn't earn you any points. That's what you're supposed to do anyway. I love you too, however bad a Christian you may think I am.


I feel I have to be very careful on this blog, because I know some people would look for any excuse to accuse me of hating or persecuting the "real" Christians. But someone would accuse me of that stuff anyway, even if I never said one word in defense of myself as a gay person or gay Christian. So I can't let fear of their words silence me.

I hate being accused of evil intentions that I know I don't have. But to some people, if it's bad, and about gay people, then it must be true. They might not even know they're making that assumption. Please do try not to be one of those people.

The lack of bad treatment is not the same as good treatment. Being better than ISIS or the "God Hates Fags" people is not enough.

The Pharisees were the pastors of their day. They were literally quoting the Bible, but Jesus still didn't let them off the hook. I'm sure they thought God was putting heavy burdens on people, and not they themselves doing it. And just like straight Christians and pastors today, they didn't lift a finger to help others carry them. Celibacy is gift--that straight people do not want, but wish to force on me. It's not a gift if it's forced on you. Everyone who has heard the salvation steps know that.

I can't marry for love, if I can marry only the opposite sex. The message is this: Marriage is sacred, so marry someone you don't love.